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I was so sad that he had done the same thing again to our family by ripping us away from a life where we were loved and cared for and where we were secure and had a purpose. I could not understand why he was doing this.

My oldest daughter was almost seven years old and she cried because she loved me and her friends. She could not understand her father’s decision. After a few weeks my hope that he would come to his senses and return the children was gone as it became clear to me that he was fixed on trying to find a place to live a different life. I decided to go to him because I was concerned about the children, especially the baby. When I arrived I found the baby in shock. She was hardly drinking the bottle and hardly responding to people. She couldn’t handle it when Robert took her away from me still nursing.

Robert’s sister was helping him with the baby at the time. I found out later from her that she was thinking to call me because of the condition of the baby. She was very concerned since she saw that Leah was really not doing good without me. As I came, she started eating and responding again. My greatest hope was that somehow we could all return again together to the community—the place where I knew there was true love and security for my children.

But Robert did not treat me with respect and would not allow me to take care of the children. He did not allow me to have any contact with my parents or others in the community. He actually abused me physically and mentally. I could not continue this way and so called my parents. He was very mad and told me that I could go back to the community but that he would not let the children go with me.

The morning I called the community and asked my friends to pick me up, Robert put all the children in his car and went for the day with them. There was no chance that I could take even the baby.

After I arrived home, the next few weeks were very difficult for me. I called to find out how the children were doing but Robert was very upset with me and I did not know what to do. All I knew was that I am a free person and I can choose what I want to do with my life. And, I wanted to live for others and give my life for my friends and the purpose that God created me for. I did not want to raise children in this society where everyone lives to make money to survive and live only a selfish life.

I wanted to give my life for a greater cause, to be part of a people that love and care for one another, where there is no rich or poor but where all can give everything they have to build a dwelling place of peace and harmony.

Robert has chosen a different course in life and did not stand on his word which he gave when he came to this life and when he married me. He has told many lies and exaggerated things that happened and I do not agree with him. All I can do now is put my trust in God that He would bring justice. My desire is that my children could come to know the life I have and one day come to the same faith. Even though its very difficult as a mother without my children and husband, I know that one day every one will have to give an account of how they lived their life. Everyone will be judged according to their deeds, whether good or evil.

A faithful witness does not lie but a false witness utters lies. (Proverbs 14:5)

There is a way that seems right to a man but its end is the way of death. (Proverbs 14:12)

The light of the righteous rejoices but the lamp of the wicked will be put out. (Proverbs 13:9)

ShalomahI am ashamed of how Robert is speaking against the community. As hard as it is to be separated especially from my children, I know that I would be miserable there with Robert and also would not be able to give them what is in my heart to give them. My only hope is to be faithful to the one true God and that in His goodness He will bring about true justice and one day the desires of my heart can be fulfilled. I hope that you can come to see for yourself what I am talking about.


Salem Joy Pleyer

Read Part 1 and Part 2 as well of, “Robert Pleyer’s (former) wife speaks out.”