He who spares his rod hates his son, but if you love him, chasteneth him betimes. (Proverbs 13:24)
Times Change, and with Them the Values
One day someone came along and deceitfully crept into our homes, exploited our hospitality, took secret videos, manipulated them, and then played them to the public. Such a thing was once forbidden and frowned upon, but that was probably at that time when spanking was still allowed, not forbidden and frowned upon. Times change, and with them the values. The prophet Isaiah foresaw this long ago.
Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who exchange darkness for light and light for darkness, who call bitter sweet and sweet bitter!” (Isaiah 5:20)
By Their Fruits You Shall Know Them
Of course, you can see everything either way. The Son of God spoke to the teachers of the Law about a judgment based on the fruit.
Therefore I say unto you, “The kingdom of God shall be taken from you and given to a nation bringing forth the fruits thereof.” (Matthew 21:43)
By their fruits ye shall know them. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree can not bear good fruit. (Matthew 7:16-19)
What’s the answer to the riddle?
Both authorities and journalists agree that our children are healthy, happy, alert, and obedient, but they say the method of education is wrong — even criminal.
And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord, and the peace of thy children shall be great. (Isaiah 54:13)
We are being praised for the fruit and reproved for the discipline. But perhaps the authorities and neighbors who have seen the good fruit have not been fooled after all. Here is a very enlightening comment from the newspaper:
“Dishonest comparison” (NUB 7.2/7.3 )
“I just don’t believe the one-sided exaggerations. These children are not abused in my eyes. When I went in the 60s to elementary school, we also were chastised in the same way and not abused. This must be clearly differentiated. At that time, people said, “What kind of father is there who does not discipline his child, if it needs to be brought back to the path of conscience?”
“Still today I respect my teachers for this, except the one that hit me with his hand in the face. Really, this was abuse; one on the butt is love! We have to relearn again, people; otherwise our country becomes like Sodom and Gomorrah (wherever it is not yet). Wake up!”
The Original Recipe
The original recipe for education from the Creator is in the Bible, in the book of the Proverbs of Solomon, who was once considered the wisest man on earth:
He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. (Proverbs 13:24)
So what does this mean? He who spares his rod hates his child, but he who loves has corrected in time. This proverb includes three key ingredients:
- The rod
- In due time
The rod is a thin, flexible branch that stings if you get it on the bottom. It could only injure if one would furiously swing it, and that only happens when you do not correct in due time — that is, if you wait until you’ve “had enough of this!” and are full of rage and anger. The Word of God calls such behavior “hating his child.”
To love one’s child means: as soon as he is disobedient, take the child to his room where you can take care of him undisturbed and in peace. In the film, that peace was misunderstood and condemned as “emotionless and cold.” You could also have considered that peace as positive, as it really is. Emotionless, yes — without the emotions of anger and wrath.
According to the sect commissioner in the film, “Everyone’s hand slips at one point or another” with emotions, anger, and afterwards you will have to apologize for it — which is true, you should. The purpose of this correction is completely missed. Correction in love and from love is always a controlled training process, without wrath, and for the benefit of the child, with the prospect of a positive future. We condemn disciplining a child in anger, for with the anger comes violence and abuse.
At each correction it depends on the “how” of the measure, while the following verses always serve as a guideline for parents:
Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is pleasing to the Lord! Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they be discouraged! (Colossians 3:20-21)
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4)
“Violence begets violence,” and that is why we condemn any violence in dealing with children. Therefore all of our children know that we love them. This is their consistent testimony in their cards and letters to us, to their lawyers, and before our judges.
Top priority: the first commandment in raising children is to turn one’s heart to his children.
And he shall turn the heart of fathers back to the children, and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I strike at my coming earth with a curse! (Malachi 4:6)
I hope the judges will let our children speak for themselves.
Now, what I say here is very different from what is said by those who have left us. Those three siblings and their parents, who were five of the six witnesses, actually represent only their own sad family history. They hold the the Community accountable for the violence they have experienced in their family. The two members of their family who faithfully remain in the Community were somehow not called as witnesses. Perhaps witnesses who would not blame the Community were not desired. It looks that way to us. Also, the sixth and final witness projected his experience in his own family to the whole community.
However, this problem cannot be generalized. Their experience in no way reflects the mindset of the Twelve Tribes. In every society there are “black sheep.” The statements of the dropouts differ so starkly from those who remain in the Twelve Tribes. Both are true! But the dropouts have their experience solely due to the choices of their parents, not the Community.
Unfortunately, the youth welfare office and district court have not taken this possibility into consideration, otherwise they would have dealt differently with us. The medical officer had indeed just recently found that there were no signs of physical or mental violence against our children.
In the film you can see how the punishment part of the education takes place. But for the sake of propaganda, the most important part of the whole was intentionally cut away: the reconciliation, the encouragement, the embrace, the restoration of the mother-child relationship, where no feelings of separation remain — all the little ingredients that cause a child to grow into a confident adult. If any ingredients are missing, the fruit will be different.
“Whoever is ashamed of me and of my words…”
For whoever is ashamed of me and of my words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when he comes in his glory and that of the Father and of the holy angels. (Luke 9:26)
Since the change in societal values, parental education according to the Bible is being persecuted in Germany and referred to as grievous bodily harm which can be punished with severe prison sentences. So we, along with the remnant of the sincere German Christians, had preferred to be discreet, but God has allowed it to become public to show everyone how children should be educated, because He is not ashamed of it. He has published His word is very clearly and you can read it in ANY Bible!
And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” (Hebrews 12:5-6)
On the lips of the wise wisdom is found, but a rod is for the back of him that lacks understanding. (Proverbs 10:13)
Who spares his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. (Proverbs 13:24)
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15)
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol. (Proverbs 23:12-14)
The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. (Proverbs 29:15)
Believe me, if I did not have my faith, my child’s education would look quite different. If I have to change my way of parenting, my faith must first be changed, because it is the Word of God, dictating to me how I should raise my children! If the nation of Germany does not protect religious freedom, then my faith is useless here. It is the practice of religion that matters — the works, not simply the mental belief. That is not faith at all.
What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but it does not have works? Can such faith save him? (James 2:14)
So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. (James 2:17-18)